Episodes

Single on New Year’s Eve and spiraling? This episode is a reset. Trent talks about what’s really going on behind those perfect couple posts, shares his experience staying way too long in an abusive relationship, and explains why being alone that night might actually be the win. You’ll get a list of “don’ts” for the night, a few better options, and a different way to think about going into 2026.

There’s a point where dating apps stop feeling hopeful and start feeling heavy. In this episode, Trent talks about dating while tired. When you still want connection, but don’t have the energy to keep auditioning for one. From app burnout and inbox math to why effort no longer scales the way it used to, this episode is about protecting your energy without giving up on love entirely. If you’ve ever seen a “someone liked you” notification and felt absolutely nothing, you’re not alone.

Resetting your profile sounds like a hack. Sometimes it’s just replaying the same disappointment. Here’s what the algorithm is doing, when resets help, when they tank you, and the real strategy that gets you seen.

This episode breaks down why the dating pool feels smaller than ever, what happens when you have to be better than someone's already good life, and how to handle age gap relationships. Plus, a listener question about dating younger women.

This week, we're getting deep into why good people can’t focus on one person, and how choice overload means you’re always one swipe away from being replaced. It's not something you're going to want to miss.

Ever wonder why we only recognize the best moments after they’ve slipped by? This episode dives into the ache of missing wonderful chapters, even as you’re living them. From leaving behind messy apartments and old relationships to the science of nostalgia, regret, and derealization. It’s all about why we struggle to notice the good stuff when it’s right in front of us, and how to start being present before it’s too late.

How do you see yourself, and how do others see you? One summer, everything changed for me on the outside. On the inside? Not so much. This episode explores why we never really feel like we fit, even when the world says we do. If you’ve ever felt like you’re faking it, this one’s for you.

I’ve been living in a hotel with my dog, Holly. Not on vacation, but stuck between homes, routines, and tourists in the elevator. This week, I discuss holding it together when nothing feels familiar while pretending everything is fine on the air. I’m also realizing that "boring" might have been the best phase all along.

A quick detour before the next full episode drops. These are the moments listeners keep messaging me about. The parts where I apparently said something honest enough that it stuck. If you’re new, this is a good place to start. If you’ve been here since the beginning, thanks for staying.

Usefulish is all about the weird threads between the past and the present. The outdated customs, bizarre social rules, and how none of us are as evolved as we think. This is another show I created and I think it fits right in with the current Girls Can Tell vibe. Curiosity, psychology, and how similar humans are to the way humans have always been.

My dating app screening process filters out 98% of matches before the first date, and has a 100% success rate with those who make it through. I'll take you from swipes to relationships, how I protect my time and why being picky at 50 is so important. 15 minutes on the reality of dating when you know what you want.

AI isn't "just a tool" anymore. And soon, you will be. We lay out the phases from helpful assistant to human obsolescence, why every job's vulnerable, why the experts are full of shit, and what you can do about it now. This is a 20 minute wake-up call you can't afford to miss. Seriously, I don't know why you're even still reading this, go listen!

In this episode, we explore 10 harsh truths about why our brains resist change so fiercely.

In this episode, I get into the truth about broken trust, can you actually rebuild it, or is it gone forever? From relationships, to family, to shady bosses, I break down what happens when trust is lost and why most people want the quick fix instead of doing the real work. Trust can come back, but only under the right conditions, and almost nobody’s willing to do what it actually takes. Do you even want to rebuild it, or is walking away the smarter move?

A listener named Bethany reached out to us. She has been considering starting a podcast for months. She has the name, the microphone, and the concept, but she hasn’t recorded anything yet. Her fear is that it won’t be good enough. Does this sound familiar? This episode is for Bethany and everyone else who is stuck in the perfectionism-procrastination-paralysis loop. If you have an idea you haven’t acted on, or a project that’s lingering in your mind, and all you can think is, “What if it suck...

Turns out, those feel-good pieces of advice we've probably all given are nothing but lies. In this episode, we'll tackle 10 classic pieces of bad advice and explain why they keep people broke, stuck, single or miserable. You’ve heard them all. Now hear what’s wrong with them.

You’ve heard these phrases your whole life. But have you ever stopped to ask what the hell they actually mean? This week we look at the bizarre origins of things like “kick the bucket,” “riding shotgun,” “bite the bullet,” and yeah, “take it to the bank.” Because we keep saying this sh*t like it makes sense.