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Dating profiles are full of them. The woman who's been to 44 countries, has three trips already booked this year, mentions travel in her bio four times, and somewhere underneath all of that has a detailed list of what she wants in a partner. Loyalty, presence, and someone who shows up. This episode is about that contradiction, what travel obsession says in a dating profile, what the relationship you'd be signing up for looks like, and why the person with a lot of stamps in their passport is often the least equipped to build something real with another person. After living through what that does to a relationship firsthand, I have some things to say about this that you might find insulting, but you need to hear it. 

Most people believe that jealousy indicates something is wrong with them, that secure, emotionally healthy individuals don't experience it, and the goal is to move past it entirely. This episode argues the other side. Jealousy isn't some character flaw, and dismissing it because someone convinced you that the feeling itself was the problem might be the most costly mistake you make in a relationship. This episode explains the two kinds of jealousy, and one of them is telling you something you should probably listen to. I call bullshit on people in open relationships, and discuss what it means when jealousy happens at inappropriate times, and how it can ruin your chances of dating. If you're one of the 8.3 billion people on the planet who've ever been jealous, this one's for your listening pleasure. Website: girlscantellpodcast.com (http://www.girlscantellpodcast.com) Leave a voicemail, listen to all the episodes, and see all the videos

A listener called in about something she couldn't stop doing even though she could see it happening. She'd been telling herself she'd get serious about dating again once she hit a goal. This episode is to anyone else who keeps moving the finish line.

A few months ago I ran an episode of this podcast using a cloned version of my own voice. Nobody noticed. Not one message. Not one comment. This episode is about what that means for radio, for podcasts, for the voicemail sitting on your phone right now in someone's voice you completely trust. At several points in what you're about to hear, the voice isn't mine. I'm not going to tell you where. See if you can find them.

The profiles have gotten worse. Not slightly, significantly. The Instagram handle in the serious relationship bio. The wrong age that somehow always gets entered younger. The AI bio with the em dashes in it. The skyline that doesn't exist. The woman who liked you first and spent the conversation taking shots at you. This episode is about what all of it actually signals, because someone is always paying attention, even when you think they're not.

In this episode, I share the conversation that almost never happened: a rematch with a clear political filter that put me in the ‘no’ category. She pushed past it anyway, and what unfolded forced me to confront my own label-based shortcuts, like the flight attendant rule and almost swiping left on someone 20 miles away in Chicago’s brutal traffic. We explore the difference between healthy behavior filters and dangerous assumptions, the invisible cost of missed connections, and how to ask better questions before we decide who someone is.

When you're just waiting for them to disappear #relationshipadvice #moderndating #datingover50 Full Episode https://f.mtr.cool/evcbfzmwbn

You're still on the apps. Still swiping and responding. But something shifted and you know it. The curiosity and patience is gone. You're dismissing people in thirty seconds over things that don't mean anything, and calling it standards. It's burnout. And the problem with staying on the apps when you're already this depleted is that something good could show up right now and you probably wouldn't recognize it.

When being alone really starts to pay off #relationshipadvice #moderndating #datingover50 Full Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/2VqygrG1QrzIokdNFZIveb?si=U7cMxKEMQK68bpcqDcqxhQ&context=spotify%3Ashow%3A2DFGqBQLbCS6xvtSGBNGv1

Just because you're alone doesn't mean it's forever. #relationshipadvice #datingover50 #onlinedating Full Episode https://f.mtr.cool/teqaaddsdt

Is anyone really okay with being alone? #onlinedating #relationshipadvice #datingover50

Are you going to be alone the rest of your life? #relationshipadvice #datingover50 #onlinedating

Being alone can feel peaceful, until something reminds you what connection actually feels like. This episode explores the difference between being okay alone and getting used to it.

Don't give up yet! Listen to this first #relationshipadvice #moderndating #datingover50 Full Episode https://f.mtr.cool/ctwwwcfadq

What the first year is actually like #relationshipadvice #datingover50 #loveadvice Full Episode https://f.mtr.cool/luqnesxydu

Episode 50. One year. I didn't think this show would make it this far. Today I'm not teaching anything or making a case for a position, I'm just talking to you directly. What solo podcasting actually costs, what I got wrong, what kept me going, and where things honestly stand.

You thought they wouldn't cheat, until they did. You should have seen this coming #moderndating #datingover50 #relationshipadvice #datingapps Full Episode https://f.mtr.cool/xgqijvhbxw

If you think someone can't or won't do something just because it's not allowed, think again. #relationshipadvice #datingapps #moderndating #onlinedating Full Episode https://f.mtr.cool/vnwehrzlnj

Don't ever say "they can't do that", because they CAN and they Will #relationshipadvice #datingover50 #moderndating Full Episode https://f.mtr.cool/yltqjzaajs

Most people assume the rules protect them. Until the day they realize rules only matter when someone has the power to enforce them. This episode is about the moment you realize the world doesn’t operate the way you were told it does.

Are they saying they're not ready? It might not be for the reason you think #relationshipadvice #moderndating #datingover50 Full Episode https://f.mtr.cool/qilvqbqjyd

What not being ready really means, and you're not going to like it. #relationshipadvice #datingover50advice #moderndating

"I’m not ready” sounds mature, responsible, and self-aware. But what if it’s just a softer way of saying no? In this episode, I unpack what readiness actually means, when waiting is wise, when it’s avoidance, and why nobody ever reaches a point of being fully healed before love.

Your ex has a lot to say about you, and it's all bullshit! Find out why this happens, and if you can change it in time on this episode. #relationshipadvice #moderndating #datingover50