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What if you're lying to yourself again? #relationshipadvice #moderndating #datingover50

How uncomfortable is it when you find out they know way more about you than you know about them? #relationshipadvice #datingover50 #moderndating

What it's like when you meet someone for the first time who already knows everything about you #relationshipadvice #moderndating #datingover50

In this episode, I get uncomfortably honest about my high standards and how often they’re just an excuse. I talk about fast dismissals on the apps, the fear that no one would actually want the full version of me, and the difference between protecting your time and protecting yourself from judgement. If you’ve ever wondered if you’re picky, or just afraid to find out, this one’s for you.

When your first date knows things about you that you know you never told them, it's creepy. #relationshipadvice #datingover50 #moderndating

Has anyone ever known more about you than they should and it creeped you out? #relationshipadvice #datingover50 #moderndating

Has someone ever creeped you out knowing something about you they shouldn't know? This one's for you #relationshipadvice #moderndating #datingover50

What would you do if a stranger on a dark empty street started telling you what you had for breakfast, your sister's name, your favorite color, things they have no business knowing? That feeling is a version of something happening in dating right now. Someone already has a file on you before you've said a word. They've googled you, stalked your socials, or got the full briefing from a mutual friend. They know you, while you know nothing about them. This episode is about what that information gap actually does to connection, and why being known by a stranger is one of the strangest and most overlooked dynamics in modern dating.

Building a life with someone who's never home is impossible #relationshipadvice #moderndating #datingover50

You think traveling to 44 countries makes you more interesting, it actually just makes you undatable #relationshipadvice #datingover50 #moderndating

So, they travel constantly and still want a relationship? I hope they're okay dying alone. #datingover50 #relationshipadvice #datingapps

Dating profiles are full of them. The woman who's been to 44 countries, has three trips already booked this year, mentions travel in her bio four times, and somewhere underneath all of that has a detailed list of what she wants in a partner. Loyalty, presence, and someone who shows up. This episode is about that contradiction, what travel obsession says in a dating profile, what the relationship you'd be signing up for looks like, and why the person with a lot of stamps in their passport is often the least equipped to build something real with another person. After living through what that does to a relationship firsthand, I have some things to say about this that you might find insulting, but you need to hear it. 

Most people believe that jealousy indicates something is wrong with them, that secure, emotionally healthy individuals don't experience it, and the goal is to move past it entirely. This episode argues the other side. Jealousy isn't some character flaw, and dismissing it because someone convinced you that the feeling itself was the problem might be the most costly mistake you make in a relationship. This episode explains the two kinds of jealousy, and one of them is telling you something you should probably listen to. I call bullshit on people in open relationships, and discuss what it means when jealousy happens at inappropriate times, and how it can ruin your chances of dating. If you're one of the 8.3 billion people on the planet who've ever been jealous, this one's for your listening pleasure. Website: girlscantellpodcast.com (http://www.girlscantellpodcast.com) Leave a voicemail, listen to all the episodes, and see all the videos

A listener called in about something she couldn't stop doing even though she could see it happening. She'd been telling herself she'd get serious about dating again once she hit a goal. This episode is to anyone else who keeps moving the finish line.

A few months ago I ran an episode of this podcast using a cloned version of my own voice. Nobody noticed. Not one message. Not one comment. This episode is about what that means for radio, for podcasts, for the voicemail sitting on your phone right now in someone's voice you completely trust. At several points in what you're about to hear, the voice isn't mine. I'm not going to tell you where. See if you can find them.

The profiles have gotten worse. Not slightly, significantly. The Instagram handle in the serious relationship bio. The wrong age that somehow always gets entered younger. The AI bio with the em dashes in it. The skyline that doesn't exist. The woman who liked you first and spent the conversation taking shots at you. This episode is about what all of it actually signals, because someone is always paying attention, even when you think they're not.

In this episode, I share the conversation that almost never happened: a rematch with a clear political filter that put me in the ‘no’ category. She pushed past it anyway, and what unfolded forced me to confront my own label-based shortcuts, like the flight attendant rule and almost swiping left on someone 20 miles away in Chicago’s brutal traffic. We explore the difference between healthy behavior filters and dangerous assumptions, the invisible cost of missed connections, and how to ask better questions before we decide who someone is.

When you're just waiting for them to disappear #relationshipadvice #moderndating #datingover50 Full Episode https://f.mtr.cool/evcbfzmwbn

You're still on the apps. Still swiping and responding. But something shifted and you know it. The curiosity and patience is gone. You're dismissing people in thirty seconds over things that don't mean anything, and calling it standards. It's burnout. And the problem with staying on the apps when you're already this depleted is that something good could show up right now and you probably wouldn't recognize it.

When being alone really starts to pay off #relationshipadvice #moderndating #datingover50 Full Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/2VqygrG1QrzIokdNFZIveb?si=U7cMxKEMQK68bpcqDcqxhQ&context=spotify%3Ashow%3A2DFGqBQLbCS6xvtSGBNGv1

Just because you're alone doesn't mean it's forever. #relationshipadvice #datingover50 #onlinedating Full Episode https://f.mtr.cool/teqaaddsdt

Is anyone really okay with being alone? #onlinedating #relationshipadvice #datingover50

Are you going to be alone the rest of your life? #relationshipadvice #datingover50 #onlinedating

Being alone can feel peaceful, until something reminds you what connection actually feels like. This episode explores the difference between being okay alone and getting used to it.